If Only I had Known…I would have learned Home Economics!

My first EVER Boston Cream Pie!

My first African Style Cooking Lesson

My first “overseas” Banana Bread!

Wednesday, March 21, 2012

In previous blog posts, I have spent time writing about my identity crisis, going from a full time job to more of a support/housewife role.  (If you haven’t read it and want to click here.)  It took me almost my full 2 years in Africa to really reflect on that transitional time for me.  As our first 2 years was coming to a close, and Blake and I were really praying about how we move forward, one conversation that entered, was different what if scenarios.  Blake said; what if there isn’t funding for us to return, or what if there isn’t a job for us, what would you do back in the states?  Do you think you would feel like you have to return to “work”?  I told Blake with a COMPLETELY honest heart, I LOVE my role now.  I get to support you in ways many wife’s don’t, and when the time comes, I get to stay home with our children, while many mothers don’t have that privilege.  It took me two international moves, a time of reflection, and an identity crisis to be able to say that, but what a great place to be.

Now, having been back in the states for a couple of months, I reflect over the last 10-15 years, and I think of all the opportunities I had and I find myself saying, “if only I had known”.  If only I had known where the Lord would be leading me, I would have spent more time with Grandma Daniel before she passed away learning the role of “housewife”.  I would say more than a housewife, an “I can do anything and everything role”.  She was a painter, a baker, a green ware maker, doll maker, a sewer, a canner and everything else crafty maker (including cake decorating).  As far as I can tell she knew how to do everything!

I decided, if I get to stay at home with my family, why not learn some of the things Grandma knew how to do, so the other day, I went to Joann Fabrics and bought myself fabric, a sewing kit and a pattern for a skirt that I found online and LOVE!  I was so excited that I was going to make this skirt, but once I got home I totally freaked out, because I don’t even know how to sew, how will I ever make this skirt?  Besides 7th grade home economics where you make yourself a pillow and stuffed animal, I don’t think I have EVER used a sewing machine!  Ok confession time…does that make me a total dweeb?  Seriously, I am soon to be 29 and soon to be married 5 years, and I don’t even know how to thread a sewing machine, let alone make myself this skirt!  So now I have this awesome fabric that is just sitting in my house saying make me, make me, but it just sits and waits!

I have learned to really cook over the last 2 years, but I am not very advanced or creative (so poor Blake gets the same 20 things year round).  I enjoy baking (and if it wasn’t for Sharon H.), I would have NEVER learned to make pies.  Things like this have totally freaked me out in the past, but guess what…now I WANT to know how to do all these things, and learn how to do everything!  I want to learn to can Grandmas famous pickles, and make my own jam, I want to learn to sew and cook and bake and quilt and…the list goes on!  Thank goodness for libraries, books and people that know these things.  I am trying to take advantage of our time at home, before returning to Africa.  But it really is a slow process, trying to learn everything at one time.  Oh boy, if only I had known…I would have slowly taken lessons from Grandma and been this super star by now!  But I didn’t and I’m not, but I am excited to learn 

I GET to be a housewife and a stay at home mom, I GET to be one of those “crafty” people, how could I not love the role that I have now.  In the meantime, if any of you have a “specialty” and want to teach a willing 29-year-old gal, please let me know!

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